In this episode of the Men's Mysteries podcast, Tim Cheesebrow and I talk about the transformative power of initiations in men's lives and share why men need initiation. We talk about our recent respective experiences with initiations we went through and how those initiations our relationships with ourselves and the people in our lives.
Why apologizing for being yourself is nice guy behavior
I used to say I’m sorry a lot. I can’t even tell you how many times I’d say I was sorry in a given day, but it could be a lot.
It was if I was apologizing for my existence.
But the truth is even more insidious. I was apologizing because I was trying to be accepted and I didn’t respect myself enough to own who I wanted to be. I was trying to fit into what I thought someone else wanted and as a result anytime I didn’t fit their image of me, I’d apologize and try to make myself fit a very uncomfortable space…namely the space of trying to be who they wanted me to be.
It never worked…
I would just end up sabotaging those efforts and then I’d be back to apologizing for letting them see a glimpse of the real me. I felt ashamed of that person and as a “nice guy” it seemed like it was more important to be anyone else other than myself, if I was going to have any chance of being liked.
What is Sacred Masculinity and why am I on this Journey?
I introduce myself and explore the topic of sacred masculinity and what it is and share what brought me to this journey that I'm on where I am reclaiming my sacred masculine identity.