Breakups hurt.
Your sense of identity and well being is shattered in the pain of realizing that your ex has left you and you don’t really know why she left. All you know is that you feel an aching gap where she once was and you’d do anything to fill it up.
But now is not the time to fill the gap up with someone else.
You want to get your ex back, but you don’t know the right words to say or the right actions to take that will convince her to give you another chance. You don’t know what to do to convince her to come back and you don’t know why she left you, especially when you bent over backwards to accommodate her every desire and need.
She walked all over you and you let her, because you thought that’s what you had to do to keep her. She lost her respect for you because you made her the center of your reality instead of showing her that you could respect both yourself and her by setting proper boundaries.
When you see her with another man you feel like you’ve been punched in the stomach. She’s replaced you with someone else and all of those memories of the good times feel like lies. Was it any of real or was it just a game she was playing with your heart?
At the moment, you’re at a turning point in your life, but you don’t know it. You can do what most men do and try to get her back, texting her at 2 AM in the morning after trying to get your courage up with alcohol and making a fool out of yourself in the process. She likely won’t come back and will lose what little respect she may still have for you.
OR
You can try to drown your pain in alcohol, drugs, porn, or meaningless sex, but all that will do is temporarily numb you and in the process put you in a worse place than you’re already in. It may also lead you to a rebound relationship where you make the same mistakes because you’re repeating the patterns that made your other relationships not workout.
OR
You can make the radical choice to use your pain as fuel to work on yourself, choosing to focus on what you can learn from this breakup and the mistakes you and she made, so that one day, when you are ready, you can go out into the world as a new and better man, a confident empowered man that no one can break again.
I’ve made all three choices, and the last choice was by far the best choice I have made for myself, not just in the aftermath of a breakup, but for my overall life.
In Beyond the Breakup, I share how you can transform your life using the pain of your breakup as rocket fuel that enables you to take charge of your life and fill it with the meaning, purpose, and most importantly your own sense of self worth, which will enable you to live a rich and meaningful life.
If you’re here, chances are you are going through a breakup or have been through one recently. My heart goes out to you, because I know how painful a breakup is and how tempting it can be to try and get her back or go right back out there and start dating other people before you’re ready to do so. Whether you or she initiated the breakup, the fact is breakups hurt and they cause you to doubt yourself on a profound level because you’ve done what everyone does in a relationship: You’ve wrapped your identity around the person you’re with, and in the process lost your sense of self value and worth.
Breakups hurt, but they also bring an opportunity with them that you don’t want to waste. If you drown your sorrows like so many men do, or go out looking for love in all the wrong places, all you’re going to do is prolong the pain you are feeling and waste your valuable time and presence on situations that will keep you small and miserable.
BUT…
If you embrace your pain, lean into those hard emotions that you’re feeling and use this situation to change your life for the better, you will grow as a person and man and come out the other side better for it. And that person you broke up with will wish she was back with you when she sees how you are living your best life without her.
And you won’t miss her.
Right now, you’re beating yourself up because you miss her so much and you’re hurting a lot, but the truth is you’ll get over her. You’ll move on with your life, but the question is HOW will you move on.
If you want to make the same mistakes, drown your sorrows and get into a rebound relationship, you can do that, but it will cost you. I know, because I’ve been where you’re at and I made that mistake. Three months after my second divorce, I met the person I rebounded with. I wasn’t ready for a relationship and had no business getting involved in one so soon after my divorce. She wasn’t a person I would have normally dated.
I started drinking way too much and partying with her all the time, but I found myself waking up with hangovers and we got into lots of fights with each other. Eventually she broke up with me and although I was devastated at the time, the breakup forced me to face the hard reality that bouncing from woman to woman wasn’t helping me. It was setting me up to make the same mistakes with each woman that I made with the previous women in my life.
I pivoted and chose to embrace my pain and use it as fuel to help me transform my life. When I did this it freed me and helped me recognize that I had been living a nice guy life, people pleasing and going along to get along and sacrificing my needs and wants along the way, or secretly pursuing them in a way that sabotaged my relationships. Either way, I felt miserable, guilty and like I was going through the motions of living life, instead of actually choosing to live a life of purpose and passion.
I chose to embrace my inner wild man and break out of the prison I had constructed for myself. You can too…
In Beyond the Breakup, I’m going to teach you the fundamental skills you need to take back control of your life, get in touch with your sacred masculine essence, and let your inner wild man out of his cage.
If you’ve been giving away your balls, heart, and soul to everyone else around you then this class is for you.
If you’ve been the nice guy, bending over backwards and getting walk all over, then this class is for you.
If you’ve broken up with someone or you’ve realized that the way you are living your life isn’t working, then this class is for you.
In this 8 week class I’ll walk you through how to take the pain of your breakup and turn it into the fuel that helps you create a new you and a new life. You will accomplish the following:
In Week 1, you’re going to become present with the reality of your breakup. I’ll teach you how to embrace the pain you are in and turn it into motivation that transforms your life. You’re going to come out of this week understanding how the breakup happened and identifying the patterns in your life that are hurting your relationships.
In Week 2, you’re going to learn how to stop being taken advantage of and walked all over. You’re going to learn how to create better boundaries for yourself and other people. Finally you’ll discover what your covert contracts are and how you’ve used them to manipulate people.
In Week 3, you’ll learn the power of developing a self love practice and how you can apply it to help you create a life on your terms through self-validation.
In Week 4, you’ll learn how to create an accountability practice that keeps you in integrity with your innermost values and teaches you how to honor and respect yourself so you don’t get walked on by other people.
In Week 5, I’ll introduce you to shadow work and show you how to identify your sabotaging behaviors from previous relationships and start changing so they don’t show up in your life ever again.
In Week 6, We’ll explore your relationship with women, specifically around what you want and what they want. You’ll learn how to identify your own needs and wants in a relationship as well her needs and wants. We’ll also focus in on resolving conflicts and how to do this in a way where you get what you want.
In Week 7, We’ll explore how to create healthy relationships with other men and I’ll share why you need those relationships if you’re going to take charge of your life. You will learn how having other men in your life will empower you to move beyond your breakup and become the man you’ve always wanted to be.
In Week 8, I share what’s next on your journey and provide you additional resources to continue doing your work and transforming your life.
If you’re aching on the inside, trying to keep all your emotions down, but feeling so tired of having to put up a front, then this class is for you.
If you’re done with making the same mistakes in relationship after relationship and you want to create a life of empowerment and adventure where you surround yourself with people who genuinely love and support you, then this class is for you.
If you’re ready to become an empowered man in touch with his meaning, purpose, and integrity then this class is for you.
This is your opportunity to stop letting your breakup define your life. Move beyond the breakup and embrace the potential of creating your life on your terms and attracting people who value and appreciate you for who you are.
Signup below and let me help you move beyond the breakup.