I talk about the male capacity for receptivity and how we ignore a fundamental aspect of ourselves when we block ourselves from receiving. I discuss examples of receiving and how you can become a more integrated person when you learn how to receive.
How to handle falling apart
Sometimes we fall apart emotionally. In this video I share how to handle those moments when you fall apart and what you can do to put yourself back together. I also discuss why this is normal for men, but that what we need to change about it is being open with people we can trust, who we feel safe with, instead of bottling everything up within ourselves.
What is a "real man"?
What is a “Real man?”
I’ve heard the phrase real man thrown about as a way of trying to define masculinity, but I think its a phrase that shames men because it creates this pedestal that they are trying to live up, instead of actually discovering what it means to be a man in relationship to being themselves. So what is a real man? A real man is…
A man who is in touch with his emotions, cries like a man and is able to share his moments of vulnerability with people he trusts.
A man who is honest with BOTH his intentions and his actions, who follows through on his word and takes responsibility for his choices, while making space for how people respond to those choices.
A man who listens to his deepest desires, his mission and purpose and finds a way to follow through on them in a way that honors himself and the other people in his life.
A man who cultivates awareness of himself and others, recognizes the impact of his actions as well as the intent and is able to learn and improve himself.
A man who is willing to do his inner work, father his inner boy, and hold himself accountable, even as he holds other men and is held by other men in accountability.
A man who is in touch with his sacred essence and revels in it. A man who isn’t ashamed to be a man, while also acknowledging that men need to do their work and transform who they are in relationship with themselves, the people in their lives and the world around them.
A real man can also be a father, son, uncle, nephew, grandfather or grandson, self identify as a man, and be involved in a variety of activities, professions, etc., without overly identifying with any of them.
Are you a real man? No one else can tell you that…but being a real man, whatever that may be isn’t about adhering to toxic notions of masculinity. A real man is a man who recognizes he is part of this world and recognizes he wants to leave the world better than how he came into it.
Why #metoo matters
I share why #metoo needs to matter to men and making the effort to acknowledge the pain of sexual assault is an important step in the men’s work that men need to take in order to heal themselves as well as others. I also share my own experiences of sexual trauma (Trigger warning) and how #metoo can be a powerful call for recognizing our own pain and experiences.
